I often wonder how two people with ridiculously different personalities could have gotten together and had children. I wonder if it's due to the difference in generation, where the values are different and the institution of marriage and family is valued over the self. Unfortunately as society progresses there is an emergence of the self, which realizes that they have given up this very thing for other values, but sometimes, after ensconcing in a certain lifestyle, it is seemingly too late to discover it again.
I find that very sad. And have tried to come up with suggestions to deal with it. But it falls on deaf ears and requited with torrents of bitter, repetitive comments.
Why are people never content with their lives? And if they are not content, why do they not do something about it? Is it truly human nature to just whine and moan about their lives and how it is simply so terrible? I'm guilty of that, sometimes, but really, people need to be more self-aware. Sometimes it's fate, but most of the time you are in control of your own destiny and people sometimes don't see that.
But evidently my values are far different. I believe in compromise however, but unfortunately I don't think it's enough for some people. Perhaps there is a way to solve this unhappiness, like in the movies, but for now the solution has yet to come to me. Stick them into a broken down lift? Tell one the other said something and the other that the other one said something?
Unfortunately I'm not a maestro at orchestrating such matters.
Sigh. I think in part, there's significant fault of mine, but like I said, there is a clash of values and the only way is to compromise - which is not enough for some people.
I'm at a loss, and just feeling upset and guilty and tired about it now. One thing I'm sure of though - is that I can't let it happen to me.
:9:57 AM: :sugah~plum